Thursday, July 10, 2008

phone sex operator ~ professional dominatrix ~ whore ~ couples sex instructor ~ web designer ~ writer ~ empowered human being ~ happy spirit


Last night, I was invited out to dinner & drinks, by my dear friend, C.   As I recall, the last time I saw Mr. Brett in person was when he picked me up from jail. It’s amazing how such an event can bond two people in the oddest way.
 
He commented on how good I looked & how well my spirit seems to be thriving in the face of adversity. As things go, I was a bit sad for the two months after my arrest. However, I came to understand that without the arrest, I would not be able to move on with my life & truly come to terms with every facet of my world. Before, I had to hide one or the other. I was not a whole person to everyone I met, although they thought otherwise.
 
Now, I am proud to fully disclose to anyone who I am. Interestingly, it seems to endear people more to me. 
 
~ phone sex operator ~ professional dominatrix ~ whore ~ couples sex instructor ~ web designer ~ stagehand ~ writer ~ empowered human being ~ happy spirit ~

I was also incredibly happy to hear that he is doing well too. When he worked with me, as my personal assistant, he commented on how much he really enjoyed what he did for me & would like to do more, but on a corporate level. I convinced him to start a corporate concierge service, guiding him along the way, as much as I could. I gave him information on web design, marketing, & a general business model. In 8 short months, he is so busy & so good; he had to hire an assistant to do computer related projects! I love when people are successful & I can in some small way enjoy it with them.



Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Ihop

Several days ago, I went with my boyfriend to I hop. As we approached the host, he said, “Oh you are here with your daughter?” Beloved, being 14-years older than I, just grinned. To the left, the manager of the restaurant overheard the conversation & nervously giggled. Beloved turned towards the manager & said “I guess he is not working for tips.” The manager nodded. The host then said “I meant you are here with your husband”. I replied “He much more fun than that!” From time to time, the host would pass us at our booth, as he was seating others. However, he could not look us in the face.

Today, when my parents visited, in order to pick up my furniture, we decided to return to I hop for lunch, telling everyone in the group the story from the previous day. They giggled with delight, when we found out that the same host & the manager were both there. Apparently, the manager said something to the host after we left, because when he saw Beloved again, he apologized profusely. Loving to make boys squirm, I gave my father a big hug, calling him daddie. I then turned around to Beloved & gave him a big hug, calling him daddie! Both manager & host blushed from ear to ear.

Sex Trade Monitors a Key Figure’s Woes





David Elms, left, with his lawyer George Bird, is now in jail awaiting trial in a case unrelated to TheEroticReview.com.


Published: June 17, 2008

Books have Amazon, and classified advertisements have Craigslist. Prostitutes have The Erotic Review.

In a little-known success story, TheEroticReview.com has come to dominate the country’s prostitution scene, which is increasingly migrating from the street corner to the Internet.

But now the site’s founder, David Elms, is in jail awaiting trial in Los Angeles in a case unrelated to the site, leaving the fate of his influential underground world uncertain. In dozens of conversations and in postings on the Internet in recent weeks, prostitutes have expressed concern that if The Erotic Review goes offline it could hurt business. But in the same breath, many are rejoicing about the potential downfall of Mr. Elms.

One escort agency that was banned from the site has accused Mr. Elms of antitrust violations, suggesting that he abuses his power over the sex trade. Other critics say he accepts, and sometimes demands, sex or money to promote certain women and agencies.

He has denied the accusations.

The Web site, which is still in operation, allows visitors to rank their experiences with prostitutes on a scale of 1 to 10, as well as to leave comments. It gets 500,000 to 1 million unique visitors each month, according to companies that track Web traffic.

“He is the most influential man in the prostitution business in America,” said Jason Itzler, the former head of NY Confidential, an escort ring. Mr. Itzler was released from prison last year after serving 30 months for the attempted promotion of prostitution.

Mr. Elms, 37, was jailed this month on accusations that he failed five drug tests since October, a violation of his probation from a 2006 drug and gun conviction. If he is found to have violated his probation, he could be sentenced to four years in prison.

Mr. Elms usually does not say much publicly about his Web site, asserting that reporters twist his words. But in an interview with MSNBC.com in 2006, Mr. Elms said that he started The Erotic Review in 1999 because he wanted to empower the customers of prostitutes.

“I was getting ripped off,” he said. “There was no way to hold people accountable for their actions.”

The house in Hawthorne, Calif., where Mr. Elms lives is modest, with a well-kept yard. The only unusual signs are a surveillance camera over the porch and the late-model Mercedes sports car parked out front with the vanity license plate “Will She.”

The Erotic Review works like many consumer review sites. Visitors to the site can look for prostitutes by city or area code and find contact information, personal Web sites, physical attributes like height and body type, and numeric rankings.

More broadly, the Internet is changing prostitution. In recent years, thousands of prostitutes have posted their own Web sites, including their pictures and contact information. They are called Net walkers. The Internet, they say, has let them more easily reach clientele, particularly high-paying customers, and vet them.

Robert Weisberg, a professor of criminal law at Stanford, said that prostitution promoted online — even if overtly advertised — might not pique law enforcement interest because the crime usually received little attention.

Jodi Michelle Link, a Los Angeles County deputy district attorney who specializes in sex and vice crimes, said prosecuting Mr. Elms for his connection to The Erotic Review could be difficult for free speech reasons. She also said that the prostitutes who said they had been asked by Mr. Elms for sexual favors would have trouble making a criminal case against him because they could simply choose not to participate on his site.

As The Erotic Review has become more popular, Mr. Elms has attracted criticism. In April, a lawyer for an escort service based in Phoenix, MystiqueUSA, wrote a letter to Mr. Elms threatening him with an antitrust lawsuit for banning the agency and its escorts from the site.

“There is no question that your Erotic Review site clearly meets the legal standard of a unique facility whose use is essential to effectively compete in the upscale escort services market,” the lawyer wrote. The letter accused the Web site of favoring escort agencies that did not want competition.

Officials at MystiqueUSA would not comment. But on the home page of its Web site, it expresses regret over the assertions in the letter and apologizes to Mr. Elms.

Ms. Link, the deputy district attorney, said the criminal charges against Mr. Elms stemmed from a night in 2006 when the police were called to a hotel where they found him with 3.8 grams of cocaine and a loaded semi-automatic weapon. A prostitute was there and said Mr. Elms had forced her to perform oral sex at gunpoint, but there was not enough evidence to press charges on that accusation, Ms. Link said.

Soul Geek

A few weeks ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years. I had decided we were no longer compatible, but we still remain friends. In fact, I was hoping he had checked out some other wenches. He had. I was pleasantly surprised where he began his search. He went to http://www.soulgeek.com/. I have to admit, I love geeks. However, I am not geek enough to have much luck on such a site. I thought you may be!

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Moving Sale

As I mentioned in a previous blog, I am selling my three bedroom house, I purchased just over a year ago. I LOVE my house. However, I hate house living. Although having a house is the American dream, it certainly was not my dream. My mortgage is bad enough at $2500.00 a month, but the additional cost, energy & time spent in maintenance are simply not worth it to me. So, I will be moving into a studio apartment, costing $850.00 a month, including utilities. The amount I save will be socked away for my retirement. 

I am going to very busy for the next month dealing with going from a large home to a studio apartment. My first job is to have a major moving sale. Not only will I be selling most of the stuff, including the house, I will also be selling my 1972 VW bug. I've gotten great advice about moving sales on the internet (http://www.yardsalequeen.com/yardsale.htm). I am even thinking about talking to my neighbors about joining me, in order to split the costs of advertising.

I also have to coordinate my parents coming to pick up the family antiques that they prefer be returned to their home, rather than be put in storage. That reminds me, I have to put in a reservation for the U-Haul!

Monday, July 7, 2008

Nude Female Wrestling

I was contacted today from an old acquaintance who I did nude wrestling with a few years ago. It seems her husband really gets off on it. She wants to go at it again! She says I should have some pent up anger from the arrest. Only in me world!
 

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Sunday, July 6, 2008

Think

I am moving in the near future. I purchased a house in April of 2007 & I absolutely LOVE it. It was built in 1933 & has all of the original hardwood floors. It is beautiful. However, I HATE house living. I hate mowing the lawn, maintaining the the basement, & general up keep. I have had many suggest I move into a condo. However, I want nothing to do with taxes. I also prefer to have people come & fix my stuff, when something goes wrong. Therefore, I am moving back into a one bedroom apartment.

It's funny. When I went to look at some apartments, I felt instantly relieved, as I walked into the models. They were small, organized, & cozy. I knew I was making the correct decision. The change in philosophy would have never been possible, unless I took the time to live in my own house. It's certainly nothing someone can teach you.

If you think having your own home is the American dream, think again. Think about all the time, money & energy you will spend on your house. Think of the taxes. Think of the insurance. Think of the home owner's association. Think about it. Think about it again. As long as I am alive, no matter how much money I make, I seriously doubt I will ever own a home again.

Saturday, July 5, 2008

Bumping Naughties

When I try to find the source of my sex positive philosophy on life, there is one main source, my mother. She never ceases to amaze & entertain me. On my last trip to my parent’s house, she began to try & motivate me to the guest house. I guess I was not moving fast enough, when she said, “Look, I have not had sex with your father in a week, due to the family reunion. You know how loud I can be. If you would take your act over to the other house, I would be grateful.”

When my father first went to the hospital for his cancer diagnosis, I was very careful to knock on the room door & wait for my mother to say “Come in” or to call in advance, from the parking lot, to let her know I was on my way. My fear was I would open the door too soon & see my parents bumping naughties!

I am sure my father’s quick recovery has to do with his medical treatment. However, I am positive my mother’s naughtiness was a huge help.

Friday, July 4, 2008

My Daddie

As I mentioned in a previous post, the day before my arrest, my daddie was diagnosis with Hodgkin's lymphoma. As you can imagine, my family's focus was rightfully on him, rather than the media coverage of one little whore.

I am currently sitting in my parent's livingroom in Tidewater Area of Virginia. I am happy to report that my daddie is doing incredibly well. He has two more chemotherapy sessions over the next month & he will be done for a bit. He was one of the few who had no ill affects associated with the chemo, which usually includes nausea, tiredness, hair loss, & weight loss. He was actually looking forward to the weight loss!

Commissioner's Office

In my state, once a person is allowed to leave their holding cell, they are transferred to the Commisioner's Office. The Commissioner is the boy or girl who decides if you get bail, go back to jail, or go home to stay out of trouble on your own. When I arrived at the Commissioner's Office, he had no idea what to do with me.

He read my report, which was 26 pages. Most are three. Then, he started talking about drug court. When I asked him what drug court was, he said "It's where we take a look at your drug abuse & attempt to give treatment for all prostitutes." I looked at him & said, "So I will be the only sober person there?" I then went on to say "I am a bit insulted. Although in this country, I am innocent until proven guilty, you have already made a judgement about me. Furthermore, you have already decided that I am a drug abuser." I leaned forward & said "Do I look like a drug abuser?"

He was stunned. Obviously, it never occured to him that he was offensive. I am sure he had the same conversation with thousands of whores, without anyone saying anything in response, except for a nod of the head. He had never met me!

He went back to shaking his head with his eyes lowered. He quickly decided to send me home, without the need for bail. I am sure he did that just to get me out of his office, rather than because of my case!

Thursday, July 3, 2008

My Favorite Toy

This adult toy is without a doubt the best vibrator on the market. Batteries?! You have got to be kidding. It’s not a real vibrator unless you have to plug it into a wall. This is the only toy I can become addicted to, because it’s the only thing that makes my squirt. Yes! It’s that intense.

Phone Sex

I have taken up phone sex, as an additional income source. I actually did it quite a bit, prior to the arrest. However, as a result of my income going towards my criminal defense attorney, I have taken it up full-time, during the off season for stagehands, which would be July through August & January through February.
 
I work on four different billing platforms, including NiteFlirt, TalkSugar, PhoneEncounters, & a dispatch service, which uses an 800 number. No, I am not going to tell you where you can find my character. That ruins the fantasy.

In the future, I will be sharing the zany world of phone sex, for example, the man who likes to masturbate with ham sandwiches. No, I never could figure that one out. Maybe he’s Jewish!

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The real mastermind!

Did I mention I had a partner in crime? You mean you did not hear about my 7 pound, long-haired Chihuahua who went down with me? Dear God, they had to use handcuffs & ankle restraints on him. The foul mouth little bad ass was cussing up a storm, calling the cops bitches!

Candy Twizzler Noose

I have had a few people ask what happened to the original whore, Aimee Sweet, whose arrest led to me. She immediately signed over her rights & answered all of the cop’s questions. So, they dropped her charges. Yes, that’s right. They dropped her charges. So much for asking for an attorney. The ironic thing is although she thought she was helping herself out, by speaking to the cops, she made herself look really bad.

No, I am not going to give you her new stage name. I have had too many internet cowboys who wanted to “get her back”. Listen folks, she is not worth it. Leave the wench alone.  Furthermore, in the end, I will be the one who makes this whole fiasco the opportunity of a lifetime, while she remains in the exact same place she was, when she prostituted herself.

Funny story: A friend of mine called her up, in order to pay her a visit. She remembered him & was so comfortable she started talking about me. She said I had left her hanging, when she was arrested, specifically because I did not call her after the arrest. I was sitting right next to him, when he was speaking to her & heard the whole thing. We also knew by that time, she was cozy with the cops. It sounds like in reality she was the one who tied the noose around my neck, rather than the reverse. Luckily, it was a candy Twizzler noose that breaks easily & tastes yummy.

Candy Twizzler Noose

I have had a few people ask what happened to the original whore, Aimee Sweet, whose arrest led to me. She immediately signed over her rights & answered all of the cop’s questions. So, they dropped her charges. Yes, that’s right. They dropped her charges. So much for asking for an attorney. The ironic thing is although she thought she was helping herself out, by speaking to the cops, she made herself look really bad.

No, I am not going to give you her new stage name. I have had too many internet cowboys who wanted to “get her back”. Listen folks, she is not worth it. Leave the wench alone.

Furthermore, in the end, I will be the one who makes this whole fiasco the opportunity of a lifetime, while she remains in the exact same place she was, when she prostituted herself.

Funny story: A friend of mine called her up, in order to pay her a visit. She remembered him & was so comfortable she started talking about me. She said I had left her hanging, when she was arrested, specifically because I did not call her after the arrest. I was sitting right next to him, when he was speaking to her & heard the whole thing. We also knew by that time, she was cozy with the cops. It sounds like in reality she was the one who tied the noose around my neck, rather than the reverse. Luckily, it was a candy Twizzler noose that breaks easily & tastes yummy.

I am polyamorous.

Polyamory (from Greek πολυ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [literally “love”]) is the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved. Polyamorous perspectives differ from monogamous perspectives, in that they reflect one or more partner's wish(es) to have further meaningful relationships and to accommodate these alongside their existing relationships.

The term polyamory is sometimes abbreviated to poly, especially as a form of self-description, and is sometimes described as consensual, ethical, or responsible non-monogamy.

Polyamory is usually taken as a description of a lifestyle, philosophy or relationship orientation (much like gender orientation), rather than of an individual's actual relationship status at a given moment. It is an umbrella term that covers many orientations and modes of relationship. There is fluidity in its definition to accommodate the different shades of meaning which might be covered. Polyamorous relationships are themselves varied, reflecting the choices and philosophies of the individuals concerned.

Polyamory is distinct from polygamy, being closer to a personal outlook than a predefined bonding system. It is grounded in such concepts as choice, trust, equality of free will, and the more novel idea of compersion, rather than in cultural or religious tradition.

Polyamory flag

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

The Rumor Mill

The sexworker industry is a funny little beast. If you do not feed its need for information, it will create it & make it seem factual. For example, I never gave any information about another industry worker. Once I was arrested, I lawyered up immediately. I refused to answer any questions & was left alone by the cops. Once I was released from the holding cell, after twelve hours, I was never contacted by the cops or the prosecution. I never gave them any information about the original whore who was arrested.  I had too much respect for either lady to help make their lives even more uncomfortable.

The best thing about being arrested & removing me from the industry was not having to deal with all of the rumors that are constantly flying about. To foster that, I refused to even look at the message boards or answer my emails. I returned to a wonderful state of dullness. There is a lot to be said for dullness.

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Game Over!

These are the details of my court appearance today. I never actually went into the courtroom. My attorney & the prosecution negotiated in the hallway. I am going to plead guilty to one count, assignation (scheduling appointments for prostitutes); the other three counts will be dropped. I will most likely get parole for two years. After that, I will file to have the parole changed to "parole before judgment". If it is accepted, my record will be expunged after about 4 years. I will serve no jail time. The prosecutions said have fun writing the book.This is what has been negotiated. So things are pretty much done. However, I do not officially submit my plea, until the beginning of August.

Brown & Jewish

Last weekend, I was invited to spend the day with a friend in Southern part of my state.  Black people are called “code 2” & the rednecks sit around at pig roasts, talking about lynchings.

I think everyone is entitled to their own opinions. However, was gets me is when their wisdom does not flow. For example, as I was in the midst of a group of rednecks, as they spoke about how brown people from the Middle East & Jews were bad & that they should not be allowed in the country. I pointed out that Jesus of Nazareth was a brown person & Jewish. There were speechless. I guess they are not used to others having a different opinion. At least they were not talking anymore!

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Trial Date Changed

I found out today that my trial date has been changed to unknown date. In addition, the county is moving is from the district level up to the circuit level. The difference in the two levels is that they play harder ball on the circuit level & a jury trial can be requested. My attorney believes the county has moved the trial date because they do not have their act together & they are stalling. Whatever the reason, I am disappointed. I was really looking forward to getting this over with.

Woman believed to be 'D.C. madam' commits suicide

Beloved, just told me that Debra Palfrey, “The DC Madam”, committed suicide (http://www.usatoday.com/news/nation/2008-05-01-dcmadam-suicide_N.htm). I am incredibly sad. She follows the same pattern as Brandy Britton (http://www.crimelibrary.com/news/original/0207/0601_brandy_britton.html). During her media attention, Debra said “"I guess I'm made of something that Brandy Britton wasn't made of." It was reported that Debra also said she, too, was humiliated by her prostitution charges.

Am I any different? I would like to think that I am. I am in no way humiliated by my charges. In fact, once I was able to think clearly, I realized how empowered I have been by the industry. I would never have the confidence, financial security, or wonderful experiences without it. In strongly believing that, I cannot be humiliated. Perhaps I am humbled by my arrest, but not humiliated.

When I passed on the news to T, my boyfriend, by IM, he said:


GirlExposed: the dc madam commited suicide

GirlExposed: http://www.usatoday.com/news/nation/2008-05-01-dcmadam-suicide_N.htm

T: aw damn

T: You better not!

GirlExposed: she follows a pattern of arrested whores: http://www.crimelibrary.com/news/original/0207/0601_brandy_britton.html

T: Yeah I know about her

GirlExposed: I dont think I will. Brandy & Debra both mention they were humiliated. I am not.

GirlExposed: I am empowered by the industry

T: You're empowered in general.

T: You're not only a phenomenal woman, you see no shame in the escorting industry.

T: These are likely women who felt sort of dirty about it in the first place & couldnt handle the moral problems they faced from society's disapproval

T: I mean for her, that seems to make a satisfactory explanation...if it was just the fear of being jailed she would have waited until after sentencing

GirlExposed: true

T: yeah, "humiliated"

T: that's not in the cards for you

GirlExposed: Perhaps I am humbled by my arrest, but not humiliated.

T: I love you largely because you AREN'T

GirlExposed: humble?

T: it's one of the most admirable facets of your personality.

T: no, humiliated

T: you make no apologies for who you are.


T: your self-esteem doesn't get broken by other people's opinions of you

T: that is so rare in women, and most men, it isn't funny

GirlExposed: thank you
"The DC Madam"

Message Board Thoughts

1. Beware anyone sucking up to you and blowing smoke up your ass … chances are they have ulterior motives … your friendship NOT one of them. Be prepared for the ensuing flames and burns.

2. Beware of minions. No matter how long you are around, minions change … you never know who is on whose side til the sh*t hits the fan and you get the stinky spray. 

3. Beware anyone clamoring for attention with excessive posting, particularly ‘open discussion’ types. Consider the reputation of the one posting and their motivation behind the post. Sooner or later, a trend will appear. “Some” post just to antagonize those they perceive as a threat to their business. 

4. Beware anyone that gets/gives a piece of a$$ as motivation for public support. A$$ makes people do things in public they would never do or think in private. 

5. Don’t assume that you are the only one that sees/knows the ‘real’ story/person. Rest assured … If anyone posts regularly … good or bad … MOST see the truth without the details. Folks aren’t blind or stupid (for the most part). Hold on to your secrets, in time it will ALL come out without making YOU look like a demon. 

6. Beware anyone that professes to be perfect or legendary … all-knowing & always right. Narcissists do not see or care about anything beyond themselves. Narcissists will go to any length public and private to eliminate anyone that gets in the way of them being on TOP. 

7. Trust with your head before your heart. Make damn sure your trust is earned in actions, not empty words.

This was copied from somewhere. If you know the original source, please let me know.

Cock Size (white vs. black)

I often get caught in conversations about men & their cock size. Many men want to know whether or not they are average & if they were bigger, could they satisfy a woman better. 

First, let me say that a woman, who has trained her body properly, should be able to get sexually aroused from a pencil. The size of a cock is irrelevant. It’s how tight a woman’s pussy muscles are that counts.

Many men want to know if a black man’s penis is larger than a white man’s penis. I asked a baby nurse once about the differences in cocks. She explained things to me this way. She said semen must remain 10 degrees cooler than body temperature, in order to be viable. That’s why the semen is stored in the balls, away from the body. She went on to explain that once upon a time, black men only lived in Africa, a very hot place. Therefore, the balls & penis could be further away from the body & still be viable. Now on the flip side, the white dude went up north, where the temperature was cooler & his cum had to be stored closed to his body, in order to remain only 10 degrees cooler than body temperature. In addition, she mentioned that for the most part white men & black men have the same size cock, once erect. However, when a white man is not erect, his cock shrinks & when a black man is not erect it simply goes flaccid & does not shrink. Got it?

Personal & Professional

The most amazing thing happened after my trial was over. For the first time in my life, my personal & professional personas were able to happily coexist. Prior to my misfortune, I had to hide one facet of my personality or the other. In polite society, a whore would not be well educated & drug-free, nor would an educated woman be empowered by her sexuality.

I was able to “come out” to all of my friends & family with the notion that I have no regrets over being a whore. I absolutely loved what the industry did for me, including financial stability, confidence, a sense of purpose, & most importantly, making the lives of all those I touched more beautiful.

Circus!

Every year the circus comes to my hometown on my birthday. Not around my birthday, but the day of my birthday. As a child, my whole family had me convinced that I was so special that the circus was there just for me. As a result of that, I never missed a year of the circus, except for March of 2008, two weeks after my arrest. I have promised myself NEVER to miss the circus again!